James 1:13-15 “When tempted, no one should say “God is tempting me”. For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full grown, gives birth to death.”
God does not tempt us, but rather he tests us. Earlier in James it states in chapter 1 verse 3 “…because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.” God does not place us in situations where we are forced to give into temptation. In my experience I found that I put MYSELF in situations where I make up an excuse to explain my reason for falling to temptation. Though I TEMPTED myself, the situation allowed God to TEST me. His testing, my repentance and newly found dependence on Him has truly refined my faith. I had to turn to God to find my complete strength, peace, and hope in overcoming my specific temptation. Had we tried this on our own, we surely would have failed.
The two of us knew we had messed up and knew we didn’t want that to happen again. We got together and prayed. David said from day one of our relationship that he wanted to lead me spiritually, and that was his chance. We began to hold each other accountable, we started praying together, and we found accountability in our friends whom we trusted the most. We went on to get engaged and eventually married. We BOTH had waited until we were married to have sex and let me tell you- THIS was THE BEST gift either one of us could have given to each other. I only wish I could explain to you what this meant.
If you are dating someone now and debating whether or not sex is okay, look at what God’s word says: 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 “For this is the will of God; your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God”.
I can only speak from my experience but I can tell you that God has immensely blessed us for honoring His word and doing our best to honor Him in our dating relationship. Yes, of course we messed up numerous times and were never perfect, but we sought harder and harder after God and continued to draw our strength from him when we found ourselves in times of temptation. We prayed for conviction and He more than gave it to us.
What are you tempted by? Sex? Cheating? Stealing? Lying? Remember that even Jesus was tempted (Matthew 4:1-11)! Draw your strength to fight temptation from the Word of God. Don’t look to yourself for help… invest your time, energy, thoughts, and heart into the Word of God. Jesus has already overcome this battle. Surrender to His aid.
-Amanda Carey – The Blush Network
This was written by my sweet daughter-in-law talking about her relationship with David, my son, before they were married. Pastor Paul and I are so proud of them both and respect the fact that Amanda is willing to share their story to help others. I think this blog will be helpful for all of our parents of teens and all of our teens at New Life. Sharon Carey