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Pastor Paul Gravey – thoughts by Pastor Daniel Bryan

Pastor Paul Gravey. Wisdom. Whimsy. Wherewithal.

by Pastor Daniel Bryan

On Father’s Day I celebrated five years in ministry. Five years is just enough time to start getting to know people in Terre Haute. It’s just enough time to start to make a difference.

What about 36 years?

In 1981 a man named Paul Gravey moved to town with his wife Sharon. Since then he has served God in Terre Haute at two churches. He started off for about 25 years as the pastor of First Baptist North Terre Haute. Then 12 years ago he started a church. His wife, Sharon is the head of one of the largest crisis pregnancy centers in the country also based here in Terre Haute.

The reason I write profiles

I’ve known Paul as long as I’ve been in town, so I thought I’d write about him today. I don’t write these profiles to lionize people but to share wisdom. Honestly, I learn so much from the people in my life that I simply need to share what I’ve learned from them. Last week I shared about newborn Silas, so this week I figure I would swing to the other end of the age spectrum for Paul. 😀

All kidding aside, here are three things I’ve learned from Paul.

Wisdom

Paul has really collected the experiences in his life and has a unique ability to share from what he has learned. He was a no-brainer when we were looking for the next president of the ministerial Association. And whenever we look for a “city father” to speak into a community wide event, Paul is almost always on that list.

What is it about Paul that gives him that wisdom? I see him as a person who has really taken to heart life experiences. He has allowed those experiences to grow his faith and challenge him to go deep with God.

I also see Paul is someone who has a heart for other people. He is willing to tell it like it is. He is also willing to do what it takes to show love in a wise manner. I really respect how Paul understands people and is thoughtful and how he interacts and leads.

Here’s my take away: I want to be more diligent about living life on purpose and paying attention. Life hasn’t been perfect for Paul, but he’s learned each step of the way. I want to do the same.

Whimsy (and Wit)

So Webster’s dictionary defines the word, “whimsy” as

“quaint or fanciful” sense of humor.”

Paul is not “quaint” or really “fanciful.” But he does have a sense of humor.

Webster’s dictionary also defines the word “wit” as

 “mental sharpness or inventiveness; keen intelligence.”

Paul certainly is sharp as a tack with a keen intelligence. But that’s not quite what is remarkable about him. So, since I’m pretty committed to using the letter “W” for Paul I stuck with “whimsy” as one of my title words.

Paul lives as a profound mixture of a man.

He is wise in that he has learned from what has happened to him. He has walked with God and learned from that walk. Yet, he has a tremendous sense of humor. I have heard countless hilarious stories from Paul. He played so many jokes on his kids growing up, and they still turned out OK.

To know Paul well is to laugh with him.

My take away from Paul is this: for me to minister well I must maintain a strong sense of humor. I must be willing to be silly with my kids. I must be willing to laugh at life. However, to really capture what Paul has lived I need to mesh in a deep sense of growing in wisdom with a profound sense of humor.

Wherewithal

Websters defines the word “wherewithal” in this way:

“The money or means necessary for a given purpose.”

About 13 years ago Paul’s time at first Baptist was done. He was entertaining job opportunities at churches in other towns. One day, he went to play golf. About halfway through his golf partner, Jim Evans, encouraged him to consider starting a church. Paul’s response was something like this:

“There are more than 200 churches in the Wabash Valley. Somebody might shoot me if I started another church.”

Yet, the idea didn’t die. Paul didn’t get shot. And he started another church in Terre Haute. New Life Community Church started in the basement of an old mall in town. From the beginning Paul’s heart was to make a church to reach the un-churched. 12 years later  NLCC is a fixture in downtown Terre Haute. Paul’s dream has gone from a golf course to a basement to downtown. And he is reaching unchurched people.

Paul has demonstrated the ability to make things happen. I don’t know anymore of his history at First Baptist then what he has told me. But I know that for a pastor to serve for 25 years says something about his abilities.

I do know how hard it is to lead an established church for five years. Paul has birthed a church and lead it for 12 years. I can’t imagine what it takes to start a church. Paul is the man with the wherewithal to make things happen. I admire that.

FYI, Paul  agreed to guest write a whopper of a post for me tomorrow about what he learned from starting a church. Read it here!

I don’t know all of what it takes to get things done like Paul and Sharon do. But I’m gonna keep bugging Paul until he explains it all to me. I do know, however, that Paul saw a vision and a need and he pursued it until it was accomplished. (And he is continuing the work.) There will always be work that needs to be done by people who are willing to step up to the plate.

Conclusion

I do respect Paul and I am grateful for what he has taught me. I hope that in my life I will collect wisdom from what God leads me through. I plan to live with a greater sense of whimsy or humor not taking myself too seriously. Finally, I hope to summon the wherewithal within me to get done what God lays on my heart.


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5 Things the Unchurched Notice at Your Church

In the context of serious theological discussions, it may seem trivial to write about first impressions of guests when they visit your church. But, if we could understand that a returning guest has more opportunities to hear the gospel and experience Christian love and fellowship, we might take the issue a bit more seriously.

Prior to assuming the presidency of LifeWay, I led a church consulting company. One of our first steps in the consultation was to send one or more first-time guests to the church. Those individuals would then report back to us on their experiences. Many times those we enlisted were unchurched non-Christians.

Why We Don’t See It

I am working at home today because a handyman is working on several small items around my house. I love his approach. When he first enters our home, he asks for permission to take a quick tour. Within minutes, he commented on several items that might need his attention, items that weren’t on the list I gave him. I appreciated his thoroughness, and it was good for his business as well.

The handyman did something very basic and very simple. He looked at my house through outside eyes. I am in my house everyday, so I don’t notice those things that may not be just right. The same is true for church members and church leaders. They see their church on an ongoing basis, so they don’t have the benefit of outside eyes.

What They See

After two decades of church consultation, a clear pattern emerged. These were the areas that engendered more comments and concerns from first-time guests. These areas are listed in order of frequency of response, and they deal only with physical facilities. I will address non-facility issues in next Saturday’s blog.

1. The Women’s Restrooms

Almost 100 percent of the female guests we retained addressed this issue. They noticed first and foremost the cleanliness of the restrooms. Then they noticed the convenience of getting to the restrooms. Finally, they noticed the capacity of the restrooms. Did they have to wait in line?

2. The Preschool and Nursery Areas

This area was a focus of near unanimity of young families. Is the area secure? Is it clean? How do I know someone else won’t pick up my child? Do the workers appear concerned and qualified?

3. Parking

Guests often commented on the difficulty or ease of finding a parking spot. Was there a covered drop off if the weather was bad? Were there guest parking spots? Were there reserved places for young mothers and expectant mothers? Were there sufficient handicapped parking places?

4. Signage and Information. 

Last week my wife and I were in mall we had never visited. The first thing we did was go to a sign that had all the stores and their locations on it. Even small churches can be intimidating to first-time guests. Do you have adequate signage throughout the facilities? Is there an obvious information booth or table? Members know where to go; guests don’t.

5. Worship Seating 

First time guests desire to find a place to sit as quickly as possible. They feel awkward otherwise. Is your worship center more than 80 percent full? If so, the guests perceive it is completely full. Are your members trained to move to the middle of pews or seat rows so guests don’t have to climb over them? Are their ushers or greeters available to lead guests to seats?

It Is Important

When a guest has a good experience, he or she is more likely to return. When they return they are more likely to hear about and experience the love of Christ.

When I was a pastor of a church with 70 in worship attendance, we decided to do something about our deplorable restrooms. We had a workday and almost half the church showed up. People donated materials, labor, and even toilets. At the end of the day, we had some of the nicest and cleanest restrooms in town.

I don’t know how closely it’s related, but our attendance bumped up to 90 immediately and never went back in my tenure. Maybe it was the church working together. Maybe it was the community observing the unity of the church. Or maybe we just had clean restrooms.

It is that important.

What issues are important to guests in your church? What changes has your church made? What changes should your church make?

Kerry Patterson’s life was transformed – Sharon Carey

During my second bible study – Breaking Free, I did begin to break free of some strongholds in my life. Kerry Paterson shared this with me after our last ladies bible study. Her life was transformed forever! Sharon CareySharon 1

Not only was Kerry transformed, we ALL were!

I am so excited to begin a new study by Kay Arthur called – Covenant.  I have already begun my homework and God has spoken to my heart just this week.  I want you ladies to join me!

The study starts next Tuesday evening, September 9th, from 6-8pm in the Upper Room at New Life Community Church.  It is an eight week study so we will be finished well before the Thanksgiving holiday!

I can’t express to you how much we all grow and bond with each other!  It is a no miss for all of us.  I know… I know your  reasons not to attend I’m busy, I don’t have enough time, the ladies may think I’m dumb (as Kerry thought), I’ve never been in a ladies bible study before, I may not know anyoneand the list goes on.  Believe me; we ALL have thought the same things!  But every one of us, who have decided to attend have all said….I’m so glad I did!  You will feel the same!  Join us!

It will change your life just as it changed Kerry’s life forever.  You see she found Jesus as her Lord and Savior as a result of attending!

You will not want to miss her story below.  I pray God will use her testimony to encourage you to join us!  Kerry will be there.  How about you?

I have participated in 2 bible studies at New Life Community Church – Breaking Free by Beth Moore and A Woman’s Heart by Beth Moore.

  I was asked by a neighbor to come.  At first I was leery to attend but at the same time, I was looking for a good bible study.   My friend had no idea! I had the usual doubts: what if the ladies don’t like me, what if I look dumb.  All kinds of thoughts went through my mind. I immediately started to pray and I decided to go.

 In the first bible study, I actually started to develop my relationship with God.  It still amazes me looking back on that study! The ladies that attended were extremely loving, caring and encouraging.  I could feel the Holy Spirit there.

 During my second bible study – Breaking Free, I did begin to break free of some strongholds in my life. I forgave people for their wrongs against me.  I forgave myself and most importantly during that time I also attended the Blush Conference in Terre Haute.  It was during the conference that everything made complete sense.  It all became personal.  I accepted Jesus’s love for me and invited Him into my life that very day!  God used the two bible studies and the Blush Conference to help me find my relationship with Jesus!  Without both, I know I would not be where I am today.

  There are so many things that I could tell you that led me to the bible studies – things that happened and things that continue to happen to reassure me of God’s love for me.

  One last thing – after the night of the last bible study, I started having doubts.  Yes, I said doubts. The ending had to do with a rope, bungee cord type attachment indicating that I have a direct line to Jesus. I can’t remember all the details. The very next day my Dad came home with a bracelet that was made from a soldiers parachute in Iraq.  Every time I see or wear that bracelet, I think of that example in the bible study.  I can pray and talk to God at any point and he hears me.  Jesus is my direct line to heaven!

  I would recommend the bible studies to anyone who is doubting, believers and anyone who thinks it might be for them.  Don’t miss out on finding God’s love.  He’s waiting for you to grab on.

 Kerry Paterson

Boundaries and the Temptation to Break Them by Amanda Carey

Temptation1 One of the more “tempting” times in my life has been the time I was dating the man who is now my husband.  We were getting to know each other, falling in love, extremely attracted to one another, spending a LOT of time together, and simply could not get enough of each other.  The physical aspect of the relationship was quickly escalating and we both knew if we truly wanted to honor God in our relationship, certain things had to change.  We established boundaries right away. Things like, “I’ll never stay past midnight”, “We won’t be alone together at your place”, and, “Let’s set an alarm so we don’t ‘accidentally’ stay up too late when everyone else is asleep.”  Even with those in place, we failed.  I’ll never forget the first time we crossed the “physical boundary” we had established.  I felt an immediate “pit” in my stomach.  It was as if a wall was built between myself and God.  I felt nervous, guilty, ashamed, bad, sad, and angry with myself…I even found it hard to pray.  I could see so clearly the consequences of my actions went into effect immediately and I felt an almost tangible strain on my relationship with God.  I found myself coming up with excuses like, “Everyone else has had sex and we haven’t , so we’re definitely okay,” or, “Nobody is perfect”.  I tried to convince myself that really it was okay, but all the while the Holy Spirit within me was convicting me—just as I had asked Him to do!  My falling into temptation was not David’s fault, it was not his roommate’s fault for leaving while I was over or for falling asleep early—it was MY FAULT.  As a Christian I had to accept responsibility for MY OWN FALLING INTO TEMPTATION and ask God to forgive me. 

James 1:13-15 “When tempted, no one should say “God is tempting me”.  For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire he is dragged away and enticed.  Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full grown, gives birth to death.”

God does not tempt us, but rather he tests us.  Earlier in James it states in chapter 1 verse 3  “…because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.”  God does not place us in situations where we are forced to give into temptation. In my experience I found that I put MYSELF in situations where I make up an excuse to explain my reason for falling to temptation.  Though I TEMPTED myself, the situation allowed God to TEST me.  His testing, my repentance and newly found dependence on Him has truly refined my faith.  I had to turn to God to find my complete strength, peace, and hope in overcoming my specific temptation.  Had we tried this on our own, we surely would have failed.  

The two of us knew we had messed up and knew we didn’t want that to happen again.  We got together and prayed.  David said from day one of our relationship that he wanted to lead me spiritually, and that was his chance.  We began to hold each other accountable, we started praying together, and we found accountability in our friends whom we trusted the most.  We went on to get engaged and eventually married.  We BOTH had waited until we were married to have sex and let me tell you- THIS was THE BEST gift either one of us could have given to each other.  I only wish I could explain to you what this meant. Amanda and David sunflowers

If you are dating someone now and debating whether or not sex is okay, look at what God’s word says: 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 “For this is the will of God; your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God”.

 I can only speak from my experience but I can tell you that God has immensely blessed us for honoring His word and doing our best to honor Him in our dating relationship.  Yes, of course we messed up numerous times and were never perfect, but we sought harder and harder after God and continued to draw our strength from him when we found ourselves in times of temptation.  We prayed for conviction and He more than gave it to us. 

What are you tempted by?  Sex?  Cheating?  Stealing?  Lying? Remember that even Jesus was tempted (Matthew 4:1-11)!  Draw your strength to fight temptation from the Word of God.  Don’t look to yourself for help… invest your time, energy, thoughts, and heart into the Word of God.  Jesus has already overcome this battle. Surrender to His aid.

-Amanda Carey – The Blush Network

This was written by my sweet daughter-in-law talking about her relationship with David, my son, before they were married.  Pastor Paul and I are so proud of them both and respect the fact that Amanda is willing to share their story to help others.  I think this blog will be helpful for all of our parents of teens and all of our teens at New Life.  Sharon Carey

A Man and His Traps – A New Series for Men

 

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Scott Gerger – Men’s Ministry Coordinator

Good morning Men!  It’s time that we stop trying to be islands of independence and start linking arms to take on the challenges we all face in our lives:  family, work, chores, bills, work, bills, church, work, bills, (did I already say, bills?) and TRAPS!  That’s right, Traps.  Our enemy is prowling around like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.  The best way to fight back is to do it together!

I just wanted to wet your whistle with regard to the next volume of the 33 Series that we will begin right after the movie.  Here is a description of “A Man and His Traps:”

Have you seen the move, “Courageous?”  If you haven’t, even if you have, keep your eyes open for an opportunity to Get Together – that’s right, we’re going to get together, not sit at home, isolated and alone, on our little private islands — and watch this compelling movie about what it takes to fight the good fight of faith and family.   Let’s kick off the fall season with a resounding, “I WILL!”

I will be coming to you, man-to-man, to invite you to the kick-off event, and then to the launch of “33 The Series – A Man and His Traps.”  You can’t run, you can’t hide, I will find you and make sure you know you are welcome, invited, and most importantly needed.   Our Lord Jesus is calling us as men to take back the territory that has been lost in our families, churches, communities, and country.  And we can’t do that alone.  We can only do that together in the power of the Holy Spirit, under the forgiveness offered by Jesus Christ, because of the grace and mercy of God.   Stay connected to the New Life Community Church website and other social media outlets for details.

In His Majesty’s Service,

Scott Gerger, Men’s Connection Leader

 

Frank and Beth Sabelhaus Join New Life Team as Worship Leaders

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New Life Community Church is pleased and blessed to announce that Frank Sabelhaus has accepted our call to serve as our Worship Leader. He along with his wife Beth are a great couple who love the Lord and each other and have as their passion bringing the church into worship!! We also welcome their wonderful children Annabelle, Joey and Jay Jay to our church family. Frank and Beth come to New Life with a wealth of education and experience. Frank and Beth are both music majors at Indiana State and Frank holds a Masters in Evangelism and church planting from Liberty University. In addition the Sabelhaus’ have served in various church planting and worship opportunities in the Wabash Valley. Come join us as we celebrate God’s leadership!! His first official Sunday leading will be July 6th.

 

SuperDad or SuperSad??

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I had a great Father’s Day!!! I have to say it was incredible! I got calls and cards from all the grandkids, got some great barbeque at a local church cook off, had a western omelet for breakfast, and then Sharon went to see Godzilla with me (now that’s love!!) while smuggling in Raisinettes into the theatre (don’t tell anyone!) Afterwards we went over to some friends house for steaks.  See, I told you it was awesome!!

I had a great Dad and missed him greatly on Father’s day. Even though he’s been in heaven 23 years now he affects my life every day!! What are the qualities of such great men?

Pastor Paul Carey

Pastor Paul Carey

Luke 15 records for us the story of the prodigal son. But I think the real hero in that story is the Dad!  He exhibited the qualities that God (as our Father) exhibits when we go elsewhere for things we think will satisfy us. And when the party’s over He accepts us back.  Over and over again! Now this is a real familiar story but I will touch the highlights and mention a few points that make this Dad really stand out.

A man had two sons. The younger Son demanded that the Father GIVE him his part of the inheritance. The Father gave it to him and the son left and went far away and squandered the money on partying! When the money was gone, a famine arose and  he got hungry and ended up feeding the pigs of that locality with the garbage of the city. He got so hungry the garbage looked good to him and he almost ate it until he realized that his Father was rich and had servants that ate better than this slop. So he rehearsed his lines that he would say to Dad. “Dad I had really blown it, your money is gone and I’ve disgraced your name and sinned against you and God, just let me be one of the hired servants and dress the fields with them, that’s all I deserve.” But as he approached the homeplace , the Father ran out to him kissed him and put a robe and ring on him, and made ready for a great party!! He stated My Son was Dead, but now He is Alive!!

Now the Older Brother got really mad at this and wouldn’t come to the party for his brother. The Father went out and pleaded with him and said, “Look Son, all I have it yours, but your brother has come home He was dead but now is alive.

Now all us prodigals know that we don’t deserve the accolades of the Father. We feel like dirt for betraying the values entrusted to us and would just as soon be a servant. But the Father sees our heart of humility and congratulates us for finally coming around to maturity and making sense of our life. You see this Father was great because:

The Father Knew the Hearts of His Sons

The Father knew the younger son would be worthless until he learned not to be selfish and sensual. The back story of this parable is obvious to me. The younger son was a pill to live with, coped an attitude about everything and moped around with a huge chip on his shoulder and always thought the grass was greener somewhere else!! The Father saw his heart and gave him his request with the hope that he would learn from his immature carousing, the true meaning of real riches.  It worked and he gained his son back with the humility that is takes to see life in its proper prospective.    Godliness with Contentment is Great Gain!!

The Father also knew the judgmental proud attitude of his older son. He confronted him with the truth and tried to help him overcome the simple minded envy of his superiority complex. We don’t know the outcome of his attitude, we only hope he changed, but sometimes Pharisees rarely do!

The Father Was always ready to restore the prodigal

We can always harp on something our kids aren’t doing right. That doesn’t take much character. What really takes character is being always ready to encourage our children when we see their efforts to do things right.  Often we hit them with an “It’s about time” or some other damaging cliché. We don’t need to ignore irresponsibility, but we do need to encourage and recognize the good as well as the bad. Proverbs says “He that diligently seeks good, finds favor.” We don’t need to be the grumpy ole’ bear that is impossible to please, but we also need to give the hand of favor and blessing when deserved. We find here that the Father had stockpiles blessing for the children (ring, robe, fatted calf, the inheritance) and also was a Fun Dad (began to be merry).  Come down off your kingly thrones and play ball and dance and make a tent with the kids. Who knows you actually might have fun also!!!

The Father settled the Justice Issues with Truth

How many children and family disputes go unresolved because Dad won’t take the time and effort to set everyone down and work things out.  We find this Father “PLEADED” with the elder son, speaking truth to him to get him to realize the priorities that matter and to get him to rethink his attitude.  Today we also need such Dads, willing to set down in a calm spirit and reason with truth to settle the disputes of the home. We also need Moms that will let them do it. And as such we can sense the security and love that Father’s bring to homes.

At New Life on Sunday we followed this message with an open invitation to our Dads to be men of integrity and sign the Courageous Resolution.  12 Men responded. We give God glory for our men, our Dads, granddads, and the influence they have on our lives now and into the future.

  

Godly Grandparenting

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The Babyboomer Generation is aging and as a result have entered the wonderful adventure of grandparenting.

When our kids Graduate from college, get married or move out is our job of parenting over?

Is it too late to influence our children after they move out? (some people think, my job is done and I don’t need to try to “interfere” with my kids’ lives!!)

We Can Have a Generational Influence

“The LORD, the LORD God, merciful and gracious, longsuffering, and abounding in goodness and truth, “keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, by no means clearing the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children and the children’s children to the third and the fourth generation.” Exodus 34:6,7

We need to warn our children and grandchildren of generational sins and propensities to sin.. Even though we all choose to sin, there can be some bents to certain sins that affect families.  For instance, alcoholism and anxiety are the besetting sins of our family. I’ve seen it in my parents and grandparents and it could show up in our family if we don’t stand guard in our lives and warn our children and grandchildren.  By doing this we can encourage our generations to live Godly lives and avoid these generational sins and subsequent consequences.

Asking Forgiveness of Generational Sin…Nehemiah asks forgiveness of Generational Sin even when he personally wasn’t responsible for the sinning.   Nehemiah 1:5-7  Daniel’s  acknowledgement of Israel’s Sins of Idolatry in  Daniel 9:1-20,  shows us that we can go to God and ask forgiveness for sins of past generations and ask God to break the cycle and downward spiral and invoke His blessing.

Ps 103:17 But the mercy of the LORD is from everlasting to everlasting On those who fear Him, And His righteousness to children’s children,

Genuine Generational Faith

2Ti 1:5 when I call to remembrance the genuine faith that is in you, which dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am persuaded is in you also.

We can by our example, show that genuine faith sustains us from the Womb to the Tomb! Oftentimes after the kids leave we see middle aged dropouts in church!! This shouldn’t be we should show that the truth and grace of God can sustain us throughout our lives.  Long after our kids forget what we said, they will remember what we did!!

Generational Accountability of the Inheritance

Pr 13:22 ¶ A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children,

The inheritance (money) was vital to the ancient economies.  There were no pensions or government programs to assist the elderly. Money was passed from generation to generation by means of the inheritance.

Today, one of the legacies that grandparents leave to their children is their inheritance.  Every person should have a WILL!!  This outlines how the inheritance will be distributed based on your wishes. But I don’t think the Bible states that people should be paid just for being alive or being born! The Bible makes much of be responsible for what God has entrusted to us.

The parables of the talents (Matthew 25) and other parables given by Christ, give us guidelines that the inheritance should be distributed to responsible people. Perhaps a small part of that could be given to make sure the funds aren’t “blown” on worthless living. (Like the prodigal in Luke 15) Then distribution of the inheritance should be according to the integrity of how the funds were handled in the small part.  This also gives an opportunity to learn and grow and be taught responsibility and accountability while the heir is still alive and warning that if lifestyles don’t change the inheritance will go elsewhere.  Heirlooms  of particular value should be marked before death to make sure family squabbles are kept to a minimum.

Having Fun without Time Restrictions

Pr 17:6 ¶ Children’s children are the crown of old men, And the glory of children is their father.

Grandparenting also give an opportunity to have fun with the grandkids without time restrictions.  Often the parents are very busy and miss out on the innocents and wonder of their children. But grandparents can take the time to do a puzzle, or read a book, or take a talking walk and bond deeply with those children to the point of making an influence and teaching values at the most productive time to do so. This is one of the great joys of grandparenting.  Taking time to spend time but also to teach the timeless values of life lessons is so vital.  While playing a game of catch you not only can teach skills, but you can teach life lessons of practice and diligence.  These lessons are rarely forgotten and bend those lives in the direction of unseen character rather than fleeting talent.

Adult Children and their Sinning???

There was a man in the land of Uz, whose name was Job; and that man was blameless and upright, and one who feared God and shunned evil. And seven sons and three daughters were born to him.

Also, his possessions were seven thousand sheep, three thousand camels, five hundred yoke of oxen, five hundred female donkeys, and a very large household, so that this man was the greatest of all the people of the East.

And his sons would go and feast in their houses, each on his appointed day, and would send and invite their three sisters to eat and drink with them. So it was, when the days of feasting had run their course, that Job would send and sanctify them, and he would rise early in the morning and offer burnt offerings according to the number of them all. For Job said, “It may be that my sons have sinned and cursed God in their hearts.” Thus Job did regularly. Job 1:1-5

Job spent time interceding and confronting his kids!  He would pray for them lest they had sinned in their parties!  No doubt he spent time instructing and confronting when necessary to help his kids live godly lives. Job was rich and as such his kids did not do without. They would have birthday parties and such and sometimes I’m thinking things may have gotten out of hand.  Job would rise early and offer sacrifices for his kids lest they had sinned or cursed God.  By the way this counted and confirmed Job’s righteousness and showed his love and concern by example, but had little salvatory effect for the kids.  If we have wayward children, we can intercede for them as Job did. Praying daily they would follow the Lord in all their pursuits.  But we also can confront lovingly when the task requires such.  Don’t miss the opportunity to share the wisdom God has given you with your children and grandchildren.  They are listening, even if they don’t appear to be.  Today may be the day the prodigal returns, and it may be what you said to them that spurs that action.

The Safe Place of Truth and Love!!

In All kids and grandkids need to know that:

They can always come home… Luke 15:22They will always be loved at home…

They will always hear the truth at home… Deut 6:8,11:18

Blessings on all in the great adventure of Grandparenting!!