The Babyboomer Generation is aging and as a result have entered the wonderful adventure of grandparenting.
When our kids Graduate from college, get married or move out is our job of parenting over?
Is it too late to influence our children after they move out? (some people think, my job is done and I don’t need to try to “interfere” with my kids’ lives!!)
We Can Have a Generational Influence
“The LORD, the LORD God, merciful and gracious, longsuffering, and abounding in goodness and truth, “keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, by no means clearing the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children and the children’s children to the third and the fourth generation.” Exodus 34:6,7
We need to warn our children and grandchildren of generational sins and propensities to sin.. Even though we all choose to sin, there can be some bents to certain sins that affect families. For instance, alcoholism and anxiety are the besetting sins of our family. I’ve seen it in my parents and grandparents and it could show up in our family if we don’t stand guard in our lives and warn our children and grandchildren. By doing this we can encourage our generations to live Godly lives and avoid these generational sins and subsequent consequences.
Ps 103:17 But the mercy of the LORD is from everlasting to everlasting On those who fear Him, And His righteousness to children’s children,
Genuine Generational Faith
2Ti 1:5 when I call to remembrance the genuine faith that is in you, which dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am persuaded is in you also.
We can by our example, show that genuine faith sustains us from the Womb to the Tomb! Oftentimes after the kids leave we see middle aged dropouts in church!! This shouldn’t be we should show that the truth and grace of God can sustain us throughout our lives. Long after our kids forget what we said, they will remember what we did!!
Generational Accountability of the Inheritance
Pr 13:22 ¶ A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children,
The inheritance (money) was vital to the ancient economies. There were no pensions or government programs to assist the elderly. Money was passed from generation to generation by means of the inheritance.
Today, one of the legacies that grandparents leave to their children is their inheritance. Every person should have a WILL!! This outlines how the inheritance will be distributed based on your wishes. But I don’t think the Bible states that people should be paid just for being alive or being born! The Bible makes much of be responsible for what God has entrusted to us.
The parables of the talents (Matthew 25) and other parables given by Christ, give us guidelines that the inheritance should be distributed to responsible people. Perhaps a small part of that could be given to make sure the funds aren’t “blown” on worthless living. (Like the prodigal in Luke 15) Then distribution of the inheritance should be according to the integrity of how the funds were handled in the small part. This also gives an opportunity to learn and grow and be taught responsibility and accountability while the heir is still alive and warning that if lifestyles don’t change the inheritance will go elsewhere. Heirlooms of particular value should be marked before death to make sure family squabbles are kept to a minimum.
Having Fun without Time Restrictions
Pr 17:6 ¶ Children’s children are the crown of old men, And the glory of children is their father.
Grandparenting also give an opportunity to have fun with the grandkids without time restrictions. Often the parents are very busy and miss out on the innocents and wonder of their children. But grandparents can take the time to do a puzzle, or read a book, or take a talking walk and bond deeply with those children to the point of making an influence and teaching values at the most productive time to do so. This is one of the great joys of grandparenting. Taking time to spend time but also to teach the timeless values of life lessons is so vital. While playing a game of catch you not only can teach skills, but you can teach life lessons of practice and diligence. These lessons are rarely forgotten and bend those lives in the direction of unseen character rather than fleeting talent.
Adult Children and their Sinning???
There was a man in the land of Uz, whose name was Job; and that man was blameless and upright, and one who feared God and shunned evil. And seven sons and three daughters were born to him.
Also, his possessions were seven thousand sheep, three thousand camels, five hundred yoke of oxen, five hundred female donkeys, and a very large household, so that this man was the greatest of all the people of the East.
And his sons would go and feast in their houses, each on his appointed day, and would send and invite their three sisters to eat and drink with them. So it was, when the days of feasting had run their course, that Job would send and sanctify them, and he would rise early in the morning and offer burnt offerings according to the number of them all. For Job said, “It may be that my sons have sinned and cursed God in their hearts.” Thus Job did regularly. Job 1:1-5
Job spent time interceding and confronting his kids! He would pray for them lest they had sinned in their parties! No doubt he spent time instructing and confronting when necessary to help his kids live godly lives. Job was rich and as such his kids did not do without. They would have birthday parties and such and sometimes I’m thinking things may have gotten out of hand. Job would rise early and offer sacrifices for his kids lest they had sinned or cursed God. By the way this counted and confirmed Job’s righteousness and showed his love and concern by example, but had little salvatory effect for the kids. If we have wayward children, we can intercede for them as Job did. Praying daily they would follow the Lord in all their pursuits. But we also can confront lovingly when the task requires such. Don’t miss the opportunity to share the wisdom God has given you with your children and grandchildren. They are listening, even if they don’t appear to be. Today may be the day the prodigal returns, and it may be what you said to them that spurs that action.
The Safe Place of Truth and Love!!
In All kids and grandkids need to know that:
They will always hear the truth at home… Deut 6:8,11:18
Blessings on all in the great adventure of Grandparenting!!